I wanna think more about the implications of this idea.
“One of the central elements of resilience, Bonanno has found, is perception: Do you conceptualize an event as traumatic, or as an opportunity to learn and grow? “Events are not traumatic until we experience them as traumatic,” Bonanno told me, in December. “To call something a ‘traumatic event’ belies that fact.””
How People Learn to Become Resilient
Psychological safety – that’s the phrase I’ve been searching for.
“Within psychology, researchers sometimes colloquially refer to traits like ‘‘conversational turn-taking’’ and ‘‘average social sensitivity’’ as aspects of what’s known as psychological safety — a group culture that the Harvard Business School professor Amy Edmondson defines as a ‘‘shared belief held by members of a team that the team is safe for interpersonal risk-taking.’’ Psychological safety is ‘‘a sense of confidence that the team will not embarrass, reject or punish someone for speaking up,’’ Edmondson wrote in a study published in 1999. ‘‘It describes a team climate characterized by interpersonal trust and mutual respect in which people are comfortable being themselves.’’”
What Google Learned From Its Quest to Build the Perfect Team
There’s a lot to like and to learn from Stephen Colbert’s story – a touching piece that glimpses at his wrestle with difficult times.
“You have to learn to love the bomb.”…The embracing of that, the discomfort of failing in front of an audience, leads you to penetrate through the fear that blinds you. Fear is the mind killer.
Stephen Colbert on Making The Late Show His Own
Reshuffling – perhaps the change in priorities tests the strength of the time invested in forging the relationship.
Each stage represents a reshuffling of one’s life priorities. It’s for this reason that when one transitions from one stage to another, one will often experience a fallout in one’s friendships and relationships.
The Four Stages of Life
Reminds me of a talk that argued how constraints are a blessing.
“Ambition drives people forward; relationships and community, by imposing limits, hold people back.”
Relationships Are More Important Than Ambition
A thoughtful commentary on the current iteration of social media that concludes with my takeaway for the next few months: to focus.
Focus is what generates long-term success. Focus leads to deeper and more meaningful relationships. Focus determines how well we can improve at something. Yet our current economy is constantly providing incentive away from focus and towards — whoa, did you see that video of the guy on the motorcycle who landed on the car? That was crazy!
In The Future, Our Attention Will Be Sold
Status anxiety – it’s costly, and we may never grasp what we’ve given up until we’re in too deep.
After all, the greater the opportunity one has, the greater the anxiety of somehow squandering it…Simply being content with what we have isn’t good enough anymore. In fact, for some it’s tantamount to giving up.
BEING SPECIAL ISN’T SO SPECIAL
This is as concise as a description can be about creating value by limiting supply.
“So owning a scarce resource taps into a basic desire to hoard things of value. It gets you respect. But it does something else, too. Nike’s strategy of limiting supply creates a gap — sometime a significant one — between what a shoe costs (at retail) and what it’s worth.
That differential allows people to buy something on the cheap but feel like they’re wearing a luxury item.”
You See Sneakers, These Guys See Hundreds Of Millions In Resale Profit
I’m most fascinated that using a straight razor to shave at home was partially motivated by a fear of the black barber and that the eventual rise in the beard’s popularity stemmed from difficulties with handling/maintaining the very same tool. Things sometimes become popular simply because they’re practical!
“Without the assistance of their former barbers, shavers had to contend with the 19th-century straight razor…Even the simplest misstep could ruin it, turning the morning shave into a tug-of-war between men and their facial hair…What had once been a mere annoyance turned into a veritable scourge. It was time for radical solution: Men eschewed razors in numbers and embarked, for the first time in centuries, on an era of beard-wearing.”
The Racially Fraught History of the American Beard
Wow! What a read about the Church and the way it has mingled with popular culture. It’s not surprising that people would find this version of faith/spirituality to be inadequate and unfulfilling. Resonates with a nagging question: when will “the next generation” in the church becomes “the generation”? Not gonna happen anytime soon when the mindset is to take and not to give.
Juvenilization tends to create a self-centered, emotionally driven, and intellectually empty faith.
Today many Americans of all ages not only accept a Christianized version of adolescent narcissism, they often celebrate it as authentic spirituality. God, faith, and the church all exist to help me with my problems…If we believe that a mature faith involves more than good feelings, vague beliefs, and living however we want, we must conclude that juvenilization has revitalized American Christianity at the cost of leaving many individuals mired in spiritual immaturity.
When Are We Going to Grow Up? The Juvenilization of American Christianity